Okay so I know its been along time since I written on this here blog.. but I am going to try and stay current from now on! #pinkyswear
Any who I know I am not the only person who receives those emails from President Obama daily, well today I read an email from Comedian/Actor Will Ferrell saying he will do anything to get you to vote! Here is the video…
I loved it, honestly I didn’t even know he supported President Obama.
If you did not get a chance to early vote please get your life on November 6, 2012 thanks!
I’ve been thinking about this for a while…(I’m like Curious George…)…So I decided to write!
So it has come to my attention that words such as THIRSTY…BOPPER (well actually I think bopper was used a lot in 2009 as well…If I’m not mistaken…but its starting to stand out more)…REACHING…and GROUPIE (I know this word is probably old…but everyone “seems” to have groupies these days…)…
..Riiighhtt…I don’t understand either….I mean who made up the definitions for these words?…and do these words mean the same thing in other areas..states..and countries?!…
In the area that I reside in these words are used a lot… I mean you could wipe your ass wrong, and you thirsty, and a groupie..(lol)…So I don’t understand??…I mean I joke about the word “thirsty” all the time…lol but what does that sh*t really mean…?!
How would you define these words??…
I was researching…just random things…and I came across this…
13 BEST relationship tips….hmmm…well YOU be the judge…
1. Act Out of Character
Couples develop a particular dynamic: the way they relate to each other that repeats itself over and over. If you break that pattern and act against type — in a positive way — you inject new life into the relationship. For example, if you always get angry at your guy when he doesn’t follow through on some chore, try addressing him in a nicer, more friendly tone, then thank him when he does a good job. It works every time.
—Toni Coleman, psychotherapist and relationship coach in McLean, Virginia
2. Get in Touch a Lot
No doubt you hug and kiss each other hello and maybe snuggle a little after having sex. But simple acts like stroking his arm while you’re watching TV, taking his hand when you’re walking down the street, or fondling his thigh during dinner are also ways to bond. Touching your partner throughout the day triggers your feel-good hormones, which reinforces your affection and makes you feel closer on an instinctive level.
—Psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith, PhD, author of Emotional Fitness for Couples
3. Don’t Be BFFs
Being pals with your man is great in theory. But that kind of connection actually can kill your sex life. You could wind up having a roommatelike bond with each other rather than a hot one if you let yourself lose track of the masculine-feminine tension that excited you at the beginning of your relationship. Save the gab sessions for when you hang out with your girlfriends and your sexy energy for connecting with your guy.
—Lana Holstein, MD, director of sexuality and vitality programs for couples at Miraval Resort in Catalina, Arizona
4. Enjoy a Steady Diet of Sex
If you want to maintain closeness with your man, get out of your head and into bed. Guys feel more comfortable connecting with women on a physical level, not engaging in deep discussions. To strengthen your bond, approach your lust life as you would your gym regimen or your diet — make it part of your routine. Set a goal to have sex at least a couple times a week.
5. Take Turns Talking
To make sure you both get a chance to state what’s on your mind during a disagreement — and get your points across — alternate playing reflective therapist, where one listens while the other talks.
—Psychologist Diana Kirschner, PhD, author of Opening Love’s Door
6. Find the Intersection
When making decisions together, try to find common ground. You each should write down exactly what you want. Let’s say you’re angling for a vacay in San Francisco to see the sights and hit up the cool shops and restaurants, while he wants a tropical getaway where he can veg out by the pool and sip drinks with umbrellas in the glass. Now that your desires are clearly laid out on paper, you can pick a place that will satisfy both your needs. A cool city, a little sun…how about Miami?
—Paul Dobransky, MD, author of The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love
7. Be More Positive Than Negative
There’s a more effective way to air grievances than to file an angry complaint. Sandwich your negative comment between two positives. If you want to complain about how he’s always late, for example, try something like “You know, I love that you’re so laid-back and easygoing, but it really bothers me when you show up so late. I’m sure you can still be the fun guy I adore and also be on time.”
—Los Angeles psychologist Yvonne Thomas, PhD
8. Echo Each Other
When you and your man are having a serious relationship talk, it’s easy to get so caught up in how you want to respond that you’re not really listening to what’s being said. That’s why it’s important for both of you to repeat each other: so you know you’ve been heard and you feel understood.
9. Grow Your Tolerance
Neither of you is perfect, and the quirks you both have are here to stay. So rather than let those annoying traits work your last nerve, try to get in touch with the upside of those particular flaws, even if it’s not immediately recognizable. Instead of getting annoyed when he starts screaming at the TV, for example, remind yourself how much you love his passion. Or if his shyness with new people bugs you, think about how refreshing it is to be with a chill, genuine guy rather than a blowhard who needs to chat with everyone in the room.
—Denver psychologist Jennifer Oikle, PhD, dating coach for Coupling Connection
10. Take a Time-Out
It’s important that you get a break from the daily grind and spend alone time as a couple — cell phones and the Internet are off-limits. It can be a fun day trip or just a few quiet hours to yourselves. The point is simply to steal away (even if you’re going nowhere) so you can reconnect, free of any distractions.
11. Have His Back
You might not agree with your guy when he’s had a riff with a friend or he thinks his boss is being unfair, but you should always be on his side…and vice versa. Otherwise, you’ll both feel like you can’t count on each other. That doesn’t mean you have to take the “you’re so right” route all the time. Just hear him out, and let him know that you’ll support him no matter what.
—New York City psychotherapist JoAnn Magdoff, PhD
12. Spend a Little Money on Each Other
You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to give small presents to show your love. In fact, gifts are more fun-and meaningful — when they’re not expected. Try to get into the habit of exchanging sweet tokens of appreciation for no particular reason. Don’t go and blow your paycheck though. It’s not about being extravagant; it’s just a way of showing that you really get — and think about — each other. Maybe you buy him a tee of his favorite band that you saw on sale or he gets you a pair of pajamas in your favorite color.
13. Be a Good Date
Face it, no one can stay fascinating forever. After being together for a while, the initial excitement fades, and your guy can start to get kind of boring sometimes. Hey, don’t think you’re off the hook — if you’re feeling a little ho-hum about him, the feeling is likely mutual! To combat the blahs, take turns coming up with an interesting date idea every month. Keep the time and details to yourself, and try to think outside the box — dinner and a movie is not exactly innovative. An awesome concert or a snowboarding lesson, for example, is a much less predictable treat.
Okay…I agree with SOME of these tips…especially the sex diet tip …What do you think?
Yep! April 9, 2010 Lil Duval will be performing live at Lamar University! Brought to you by Lamar’s own Zeta Psi Chapter of Kappa Alpha Psi, and VA…
Where will you be on April 9th?!
This is a poem i wrote…
let me know what you think..
[thinks to my self]
my body feels like its fading…my mind is steadily goin crazy…as I sit bak and wonder why I can’t be his lady….
no one specifically just trying to figure out what’s wrong with me…
Is it my smart mouth…my clumsiness…or the fact that you can’t get in my bed after the first text message…
or is it because im sweet…you may mistaken that for being weak…
or maybe its my mind…too strong for ur kind…
or could it be my strong personality…that’ll never change cause that’s just me..
or maybe its my past…but don’t worry cause that is never my potential…
or maybe its because I hold my head high…I kno right…SURPRISE…
or is it because I have stanards…
no no I got it…its angelle gene’ gillum…took me a while to see…hmm..but maybe its the qualities in me…
this is not towards anyone…just my thoughts…
Iam sorry Ive been neglecting this blog…grrr but from now on I will put Release the Joose FIRST! Promise
I’m writing this blog to talk about respect…and disrespect especially with the MALE species… It has come to my attention that some guys still act like there mother did not teach them how to talk to WOMEN… Maybe that’s why your still single??…or the only time you see action is at night??… Sure a girl will have sex with you, but who would want to show off a guy who doesn’t know how to talk or treat a female right…
Iam especially talking about these “super stars” at Lamar…or at least that is what they think they are… You think your big and bad because you told a female “fuck you bitch”, do you think that makes you more of a man?? Well it doesn’t… It makes you look real WEAK especially because your mother is a women, and you wouldn’t talk to her that way, and you females need to stop letting these men talk to you in that matter RESPECT your self, because if you don’t then HE won’t…
Guys the next time you even THINK about calling a female out of her name…make sure you vision your mother in front of you…Now would you tell her “fuck you bitch”…??
Monique is doing a interview with Barbra Walters she reveals a few things about her marriage with Sidney…
Here is what she says…
“Let me say this: I have not had sex outside my marriage with Sidney,”
“Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker. That’s not something that would make us say, ‘Pack your things and let’s end the marriage.” (Source)
She then goes on to say it wouldn’t matter how many times he cheated…
umm…I dont know about all that…Monique you my girl, but I don’t think I could be with a man knowing that he’s cheating on me… 1st of all that’s NASTY…and 2nd of all that’s EMBARRASSING…and 3rd that’s NASTY…and I’m a selfish type of girl no that wouldn’t work for me…but you never know maybe this works for some people…
I know alot of people think that Jay-z is apart of this Illuminati sh*t…and I know alot of people think that its BS…hmmm but I was in my class and this girl was showing me this video On to the Next One and she pointed out something that I didnt even notice during the video…But I just want to know if I’m tripping or not…I hope Iam…
Let the full video load and stop the video at 3:39…and tell me what YOU see…
Nice pictures huh??…These pictures were taken by my friend Greg…he also has a photo blog… click here to see more of his work —> Foto Noir…Thats the reason I decided to put some of his pictures on here…You might see him taking pictures for Lamar events, but when I went to his blog I was like woooooooooooooooow, dude is really talented!
this is him!!
Maybe he’ll be the photographer for Release The Joose hmmmm….lol…
I was blogging…looking around…and I ran into this, and I thought it was quite interesting…so I decided to share!…
DO say the words text me when you give out your number to a new guy.
Giving a new guy your number and telling him to call can be iffy. Start with a text.
DON’T just text “Hi.”
Even if the only reason you’re texting him is because you’re thinking about him, this kind of short and shy flirtexting typically leads nowhere.
DON’T purposely send him a “mis-text.”
Women tend to use this move as a way to make men jealous. But he’ll see right through your needy outreach and move his texts on to the next.
DO text him back within 24 hours.
Anything beyond that reads “I’m just not that into you—or your texts.”
DO ask him out over text.
If you like him, gauge his interest by sending a light-date invite without hesitation. Try: “Don’t know about you, but I predict I’ll be parched after work Thursday. Drinks?”
DON’T kid yourself.
If he only texts you past 10 P.M., he’s just looking to hook up with you. The late-night flirtexter does not want to date you. Respond at your own risk.
On that note: DON’T TUI (Text Under the Influence).
Any text sent while under the influence of alcohol, Ambien or a good Leo DiCaprio film is a bad idea! Conditions that lower our inhibitions make it more likely that we’ll text things we otherwise wouldn’t.
DO use the phone on certain occasions.
For instance, if he calls you and you like him, you absolutely must return the call. Texting back in response to his call reads uninterested.
DON’T go overboard with abbreviations and acronyms.
Things like “MTFBWU” (May the force be with you) and overzealous “LOL” usage should be reserved for texts with your tween cousin or BFF, not to a PBF (potential boyfriend).
DON’T send a sexy message before you are in an exclusive relationship.
Doing this puts your secret fantasies at a high risk of being forwarded to all of his male coworkers.
DO learn how to send him into the friend zone.
Throwing a “Buddy,” “Pal,” “Kiddo” or “Sport” somewhere in your texts usually accomplishes this. If he’s smart, he’ll take the hint. Girls interested in dating him don’t typically call him “Kiddo.”
DON’T text your ex.
This is rule is especially important to remember when you’re feeling lonely and vulnerable.
DO send a thank-you text, post-date.
Even if there were no sparks, it’s just proper flirtext etiquette. But if you had the best date ever (we’re talking full-on fireworks), call him the next day to say thanks. If he felt the same way, he will definitely appreciate the reassurance!